My Father's Daughter

There is a song by Citizen Cope called, "A Father's Son".  Steven and I recently had a conversation about that, asking the question of "What traits did you inherit from your mom/dad that you like about yourself and what do you not like?"  It prompted some interesting discussion about unexpected attributes that we each have from each parent.  It turns out, I have many of my father's, which I'm sure is no surprise to my momma.  I have many friends who have lost their dad in the last year and it is heartbreaking to me to think about what my life would be like without him in it. 

Today is my daddy's birthday.  I don't think I can remember a time when he wasn't being a great dad.  He always showed up to all of our activities growing up, he was always an amazing provider, a supportive husband and father, and just a generally super fun guy to be around.  Now he also had a temper that could flare in a nano second, but my sis and I actually began to prefer the "scream and get it over with" method of discipline as opposed to the "emotional punishment for days on end" method my mom employed from time to time (love you mom).

We are similar animals, my dad and I.  We both appreciate the humor in things, we both have a propensity to be adrenaline junkies, we both have little patience for bad drivers.  When I think about the vast sea of info that he has passed on to me, I have lots of great memories.  He is the one that taught me how to ride a bike, how to tie my shoes (while sitting on his motorcycle seat), how to truly appreciate Led Zeppelin (your head in between the speakers, flat on your back so you can feel the bass and hear the sound move from left to right), how to change a tire, how to take care of a car (Jenn, the oil is the lifeblood of your engine), how to play racquetball, how to paint a house, how to find humor in most everything out there, even if it's totally bleak (cause that's when the dark humor gets really funny), how to bait a hook, how to forgive myself, how to persevere, how to expect to be treated as a woman with respect and love, how to work your ass off to make a marriage work when you really love someone, how to right a sailboat after dumping it in the middle of the ocean, how to keep going when the odds look the most grim, how to give in when you need to, how to be a super Grand-dad, and how to have faith that it really will all be OK.

So a huge, huge HAPPY BIRTHDAY to my daddy.  The rock and leader of our family, from one of your biggest fans.


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  1. What a wonderful tribute, Jenn. The bond between a Daddy and his daughter(s) is a very special one. I remember when we were young and you all would come in you would get to stay at our house because we had the "girls" house. :) We played and laughed till we were sick. I miss those days.

    I always thought our Dads were very similar. They always seemed to be into the same things: Music, anything with wheels and a motor, and just having fun with their families.

    There isn't a word in the English language to express how I miss him, but I learned so much from him that I never realized until he was gone. He taught me how to treat people fairly and to always put myself in someone else's shoes before I make a snap judgement. I'll never forget the day I went to the cemetery to pick out Dad's gravesite. (Who could forget that anyway.)The gravedigger was there and said, "I always liked Doug. He always treated my like I was somebody. Doug never acted like he was above anyone." I only hope I pass this lesson to my boys.

    He also taught me to never take myself too seriously and that you don't always have to act like a "grown up". Never saw a person that could separate work/fun like he did!

    We are our father's daughters. You've made my face smile, Jenn. Thanks. <3

  2. I thought about you and Kim while I was writing this and how terrible the hole is because he is gone. You are both, indeed, your daddy's girls. And what a great legacy that is. One that you all are most certainly passing on! Love to you all. I'm glad I made your face smile:)